New Year Resolution or New Year Evolution?
We are a few weeks into the New Year and you are probably falling into one of two buckets: You are killing your New Year’s resolutions and feeling on top of the world or you have already started to slide on those resolutions and are feeling frustrated and negative towards yourself. According to Forbes, only 8% of people actually achieve their New Year’s resolutions… 8%!!! I assumed the number was low, but I was a slightly shocked to learn just how low the number was. As human beings, why do we do this to ourselves? We get so wrapped up in the excitement and hope of January 1st, then we get back to work, the kids go back to school and as the magic of the holidays fades so does our ambition and determination for change. The pressure we put on ourselves to beat the New Year’s resolution statistics becomes enough to make us want to throw in the towel and give up. This year I am focusing on a New Year Evolution. Read on to find out more…
Bathing suit ready or something more?
Every year I have made the same resolutions- be bathing suit ready by summer and make more time for the important people in life. Pretty standard right? Every year I fall in line with the 92% of people that do not achieve their New Year’s resolutions. I would get down on myself and then just resolve that things would never change for me (cue the tiny violins). This year my approach has been a bit different. I was given some advice right before the New Year, after talking with some friends about my goals and hopes for 2018. I was asked, “What are you willing to do to get there?”.
What are you willing to do to get there?
“What are you willing to do to get there”, is such simple and basic concept that changed everything for me! See, every year I may have the same resolutions but what I was willing or unwilling to do did not match what it would take to meet my goals. For example, over the years I wanted to lose weight and look amazing in a bathing suit but the truth was, I wasn’t willing to commit to an intense workout program. I was willing to make changes to my diet and fit in cardio where I could, but that was only going to get me so far. I realized that if I am not willing to the things I need to do to meet my goals, then I need to be happy and find satisfaction with what is in my life. I believe this to be true for so many others that may struggle with holding onto those pesky New Year’s resolutions. Our intentions are in the right place, but we may not be in a spot in our life to make changes or be “willing” to take steps to get us to that next level.
Setting Honest Goals
So, this year as I set my goal, I sat down and was honest with myself about what I was willing to do to achieve it. My goal was simple but also very open: be healthier mind, body and soul. I didn’t tell myself I had to lose 20 pounds by Memorial Day or have my life’s work figured out by December. My goal this year is a journey of self exploration and self love. I believe that this goal will lead me closer to what will help give me happiness, purpose and the love that I desire. At the end of the day, when I say I want to lose weight, what I am really saying is that I want to feel comfortable and happy in my own skin. When I say I want to spend more time with the important people in my life, that is just a quest for connection. This same goal will accomplish both and then some!
What I decided I was Willing To Do
Here is what I decided I was willing to do this year to help me achieve my goal:
- I am willing to say “yes” to new things, even the things that may scare me. By doing this I will open the doors to new experiences, people and understanding of myself.
- I am willing to devote at least one hour a day (or more!) to myself. This includes working out, meditating, journaling or a combination of both.
- I am willing to try new classes and workouts at the gym that will challenge me while also making me excited to go to the gym. Let’s face it, without a routine that we find fun and/or exciting and challenging we are not going to stick to it. By exploring this, I will be able to stick to a routine and meet my health goals.
- I am willing to spend an hour before bed reading and learning rather than turning on Netflix and zoning out.
- I am willing to create and stick to a morning routine that will allow me to start my day on my terms. This includes waking up and moving, keeping a gratitude journal that I write in every morning and enjoying a cup of coffee without looking at my phone. By doing this I will start my day on my terms and be able to stay more present and grounded.
- I am willing to forgive myself when the day isn’t perfect and remind myself that I am human, and tomorrow is a new day.
Evolving to a Healthier Mind, Body and Soul
My goal of a heathier mind, body and soul is a work in progress, an evolution. My goals will naturally evolve as the year goes on. In a couple months I will check in with myself to change or alter where needed. If you are already struggling with your resolutions or goals for 2018, stop and remind yourself that you can get back on track and that the first few weeks of the year does not define your entire year. I challenge you to sit down and get honest with yourself on what you are willing and unwilling to do reach your goals. From there, move forward and enjoy the journey that 2018 has in store for you!
Jen Mastroianni is a thirty-something cat mom of two with a passion for helping others be the best version of themselves. Maintaining mental, emotional and physical health through a healthy lifestyle is incredibly important to her. When not working, you can find her out for a run, in a yoga class or curled up on the couch with a good book. Read how Jen beats stress here. Follow her on Instagram at @jenn_mastroianni.